Locus of Control Series – Part 3: Taking Control of Your Life

Rules vs. Standards & Who’s In Charge?

We are resuming this newsletter from last month, continuing the Locus of Control discussion – Internal and External – and how that affects you.

For a quick overview, when you are operating from the Internal Locus, you are taking complete control of your life.  Note: this does not mean the life of anyone else!  This means you work with yourself only and don’t try to change others – have no rules for other people in relationships – just your own healthy boundaries.  You only control what is controllable – yourself, your emotions, your time, money, energy, your health (to a certain degree), etc.   And, you don’t waste your time or your energy in trying to control or change events outside of your influence.

To start taking responsibility for yourself and developing the Internal Locus of Control there are three necessary steps, which we covered last month:

  1. Take Responsibility – Stop Blaming Others
  2. Take Action – Stop Making Excuses
  3. Frame Life Events as Constructive and Positive – you set your own conditions and definitions to the events of each day

This month we are moving our focus to:

  1. The Difference Between Rules and Standards
  2. Dominance and Control In Your Life

Rules vs. Standards

In the two previous newsletters I mentioned the importance of controlling ourselves and not others, and I want to expand on this now a bit more.  When we look at the concept of a rule, we discover that it is a regulation that comes from an external source.  A law is a great example of a rule.  For instance, the laws governing stop signs and traffic lights are external and directly govern our behavior for the good of all.  But many people are so comfortable with rules that they like to set all manner of rules for their friends, families, spouses, etc., to govern other people’s behavior, from an outside source – theirs.  I don’t advise creating rules for other adults to follow – that’s an ineffective strategy that will almost always result in your disappointment.

I can almost hear you now asking me the question – “but what about boundaries – healthy boundaries”?  You see, boundaries are not really about other people and they are not rules, they are standards – your standards about you and how you want to be treated.  They are your regulations that are sourced from you, internally!  Let’s say you are like me and value integrity.  So then it follows that you do not accept the behavior of someone who repeatedly doesn’t honor their word with you.

The significant difference between rules and standards is that rules govern us from the outside world and standards come from within each of us.  In personal relationships rules can and often do create incredible damage to peace and longevity.  Whereas healthy high standards will only improve your life and assist you in becoming the best possible version of yourself.  This is because healthy high standards align you with your core values, which ultimately produce joy and fulfillment for you and in your life.

To go back to our example of integrity and someone keeping their word, you cannot, nor should you, put any rules on anyone else.  And, using our example of integrity, because you have standards when it comes to integrity and the people around you, you would not have people close to you who do not honor their word with you, unless there is a very good reason – which would be the exception, nor the norm.

When someone doesn’t keep their word, it doesn’t mean you punish them in any way.  After you have clearly and kindly told them what your standards are, and they are aware of them, you simply remove yourself from the situation and the person who isn’t able to meet them.

When someone is not able to meet your standards, it means that you are simply not compatible.  Lowering your personal standards would mean that you deviate from your personal values, which in the end will not help you achieve true joy or fulfilment.

Dominance and Control In Your Life – Who’s In Charge?

This is a topic that I am approaching with extreme caution.  First let me say that as mature healthy adults, we are all meant to be dominant and in control of our own lives – not dominant of or in control of others.  Dominance and in control of yourself is the key to becoming actualized.  I know that dominance often has a less than constructive connotation.  But I want you to set that old paradigm aside and start considering what could happen for the good in your life if you become the positive dominant factor in your life – speaking up for yourself – respecting yourself – loving yourself – not giving up on yourself – honoring yourself….  Get the idea of what I am talking about?

I am using dominance here as a constructive, affirming energy in your life, that has nothing to do with hurting or controlling those around you nor with hurting yourself.  Instead, it is about creating trustworthiness – in trusting yourself so that others can trust in you.

When you are the dominant force in your own life, you feel good, strong, decisive, and trustworthy, which allows you to make excellent decisions and protect yourself.  You are in charge of yourself and your life, get your needs met in healthy and constructive ways (not at the expense of others), and you say “No” when situations require it.  Being self-dominant removes the influence from those who would take advantage of your time, money, or energy.

I want to take a moment now to speak directly to the feminine energy in women.  As women, when we look at being the healthy self-dominant force in our lives, it does not mean we become less feminine.  In fact, we have to find and embrace the feminine energy flow within and use this strong receptive creative energy to be in control of our own lives.  The best analogy is on a flight, we must place the oxygen mask on ourself first.  We don’t do that because we are selfish…, or because we are self-serving…, or because we’ve earned it…, or because we deserve it…, or because we’re better than…, rather we do it so that we can be of the best possible service without compromise.  Even tho this example is taken from an emergency situation, really we should be following this protocol with everything in our lives.  It only becomes self-evident in a crisis situation that this is the necessary order of operation.

And here, I invite women to utilize their uniquely feminine energy to become healthfully self-dominant, taking care of ourselves first, in the way that only we can, for the appropriate reasons, and not emulating the masculine in accomplishing this.  Doing this effectively will have everything to do with the intuitive creative feminine energy and very little to do with the logical masculine approach.  Hope this makes sense.  We can explore this further if you would like on the live Zoom conversation.

To become truly self-dominant, you simply take hold of your reality, and control it as you see fit and then invite others into your reality.  Most people are quite unaware of the power their thoughts have and go about their life on “auto-pilot”, constantly being pulled into the reality of others.  This is where the Life Activation and Empower Thyself Class and Initiation can be so helpful, both in helping you to understand how the mind works, effectively setting new patterns, and using the energy of the Light to source the actualization of your life work.

Reality – whatever we believe as reality – actually exists in our own mind.  Our mind is so much more powerful than most of us are aware.  As such, it has a huge impact on our attitudes, opinions, perceptions, beliefs, behaviors, feelings, emotions, and most importantly on our actions.  Psychological research has validated this now for decades, and metaphysics has been teaching this for thousands of years – our lives are the result of our beliefs.

The programming starts from the moment we are born.  We are either directly or indirectly taught what we can and cannot do, say and even think.  What to like and not like, who and what to accept as well as who and what to be afraid of, who and how to love, etc.  And because of this, as we mature, we make choices and decisions based almost entirely on someone else’s dogmas, without ever genuinely questioning them.  And so much of these mindsets that we accept as truth/fact are actually misinformation, if not (although unintentionally) unproductive and downright harmful.  Some of us, as we mature, begin to realize that not everything is as we were led to believe, and the strategies, doctrines and teachings don’t work as promised.  In fact, many of them actually are holding us back in life.  They often sound like this:

  • S/he is out of my league
  • I can’t get that position
  • I’m not smart/good enough
  • I can’t do it or I could never _________
  • Money is bad
  • People can’t be trusted
  • People like me don’t do that
  • I don’t have a choice
  • Life isn’t fair
  • My father tried that and failed
  • Etc.

It’s important to take a good hard look at the foundations you have based your life on to ensure that each of them truly supports you in actualizing your life purpose, and are not the result simply of the conclusions you’ve arrived at based on information that has been passed on to you by well-meaning but otherwise misinformed people.  In order to do this, though, you have to be constantly challenging, re-evaluating, and re-assessing your current personal beliefs and results.

As mature adults, we must give ourselves the permission to uncover and see the harmful, counterproductive, and negative belief structures, residing just below the surface of our consciousness, that are in control of our thoughts.  If we don’t do this, we will never be able to truly self-dominate and control our own reality and invite others into our reality.

This type of honesty happens one step at a time, and is never gained by being hard on ourselves or by making ourselves wrong.

Next month we will continue this conversation and cover:

  1. Creating Your Reality
  2. Living In Your Reality
  3. Inviting Others Into Your Reality

In the meantime – if you are interested in a more in-depth/expanded conversation about Internal and External Locus of Control as covered in this newsletter series, specifically the Difference Between Rules and Standards and Taking Dominance and Control in Your Life, please join me for a live Zoom call next week Wednesday, October 6, 6:30-8pm.  We will review the key points of this newsletter and dive deeper into the conversation.

Register here.

And if there are specific questions you would like me to address, please send them to me at verlawade@gmail.com by Tuesday evening, October 5, 2021.

I am holding you in my heart.

Locus of Control Series – Part 2: Taking Control of Your Life

How to Develop A Reliable Internal Locus Of Control

We are resuming this newsletter from last month, continuing the Locus of Control discussion – Internal and External – and how that affects you.For a quick overview, when you are operating from the Internal Locus, you are in total and utter control of your life.  Note: this does not mean the life of anyone else!  This means you work with yourself only and don’t try to change others – no rules for other people in relationships – just your own healthy boundaries.  You only control what is controllable – yourself, your emotions, your time, money, energy, your health (to a certain degree), etc.  You don’t waste your time or your energy in trying to control or change events outside of your influence.

In this conversation it is essential to state that you must never blame yourself for any result.  No one will ever be right all the time – mistakes happen, especially when you are living large enough.  As you take control of your life with the Internal Locus, you will for sure make mistakes, some bad decisions, etc.  And you will get some bad results – it’s guaranteed!  So relax, and get over trying to do everything perfectly – instead, be watchful and do as much as possible with excellence.

Even when your past decisions and actions have not been right (or smart, or perhaps even wise), it is imperative that you understand that you have always done the best you could do, given who you were in that particular moment in time.  You must give yourself the benefit of the doubt, forgive yourself, take responsibility, and move on – without blame.

When you realize you have made a mistake, take it as an opportunity to learn, refine, and redirect  – and don’t dwell on it.  Your destiny is always in your hands when you have the Internal Locus of Control, because by its very nature, it forces you to look inside and make changes from within in order to achieve your desired outcome.

To start taking responsibility for yourself and developing the Internal Locus of Control there are three necessary steps

  1. Take Responsibility – Stop Blaming Others
  2. Take Action – Stop Making Excuses
  3. Frame Life Events as Constructive and Positive
 Take Responsibility – Stop Blaming Others

From the start, you must understand that you are responsible and take responsibility for what happens to you.  This means you stop blaming other people, places, and things, because this blame ultimately imprisons you in the victim stance.  When you see an area of your life where the L of C (Locus of Control) is not 100% internal, then begin by taking responsibility.  Remember though, no blame, and certainly no guilt.  No harshness is allowed as you take responsibility.  It is as simple as getting out of the passenger seat and into the driver’s seat of your life in each specific situation.  When you are blaming others you are essentially a back-seat driver in your own vehicle of life!

Take Action If It Needs to Be Done – Stop Making Excuses

Once you take responsibility you must keep going – more is required – do not stop.  Now positive, forward-moving, constructive action is called for.  What people with external L of C most often do here though is complain, blame, and make excuses.  It is imperative that you monitor your thoughts and words and catch yourself if you start complaining – especially in your mind.  Stop now!  No more reasons or excuses.  What is, is.  Again, there is no fault or blame here, just the current reality.  And in this positive mindset, if something needs attending to, do it!  This is your life, so don’t wait around for someone else to magickally make it happen for you.

Frame Your Life Events as Constructive/Inspiring

The final step is to give an empowered meaning to everything that happens in your life, and then take action.  Successful people are self-sufficient and enterprising – especially those who have worked their way up from the ‘ground floor’.  They started with a compelling vision/goal about what they wanted to achieve, and took full responsibility for their life, even when there was no guarantee.  This requires courage and the willingness to invest in yourself and your dreams.  What they have in common is that they are able to create a stepladder of positive and empowered meanings, and therefore able to change the direction of their life.

Now it’s up to each of us – up to you – to do the following:

  • Take back control in the areas of your life where you have given it up, and
  • Write/rewrite a constructive, empowering, inspiring, and positive meaning to all your events,
  • Make the right decisions, and
  • Take the necessary actions to achieve the results you desire

If you are wondering where to start, here are a few questions you can ask yourself:

  1. Where in my life am I still a victim (of my life, i.e. complaining, or blaming), and where am I a victor?
  2. Where in my life do things (or what circumstances cause things to) happen to me, and where do I make things happen?
  3. Where in my life am I still at the effect of my actions and where in my life am I the cause of my actions?

The first section of each of the three questions above are the areas where you still are dealing with a degree of External L of C – you are not fully empowered.

As you look at this for yourself this month, I’d like to share this quote from Charlie Wardle: “A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because its trust is not on the branch, but on its own wings.”  In other words, empowerment is never about blame, its about taking personal responsibility.  And of course, if any of this sounds ‘vaguely familiar’ to those of you who are Initiates and Kabbalists with the Modern Mystery School, IT IS!  We are just using more current concepts to explain the ancient, time-proven Hermetic and Kabbalistic principles!

Next month’s newsletter will continue to look at where the Locus of Control is in our life and we will talk about

  1. The Difference Between Rules and Standards
  2. Creating Your Reality
  3. Living In Your Reality

 

I am holding you in my heart.

Take Control in Your Life: Where is Your Locus of Control?

 

I currently hear many people reflecting in the past 18 months that they feel a significant loss of control in their lives.  And even though the world seems to be settling rapidly into a ‘new normal’, there remains for many of us a small nagging feeling (or maybe not so small), that we have relinquished things significantly important to us.

We can’t change what is happening in the world – what we can do is embrace and expand our Internal Locus of Control.

We have been taught – even programmed through praise and recognition – to assign a reason or cause to our behaviors and actions.  Psychology refers to this as Attribution Theory, which covers the fact that people give meaning to behavior by explaining causes – both their own and others’.  Locus of Control is a key concept in Attribution Theory, that explains either one interprets events to be due to their own behavior, or due to outside circumstances, influence, or factors.  In other words, within my control and I take responsibility, or outside of my control and, therefore I do not take responsibility.

The average person tends to have an External Locus of Control, where outside forces take charge of their life. These people believe that a good share of their life is a result of chance, fate, luck, or destiny.  This allows them to live as a scapegoat.  Whenever life gets hard, or throws them a curve, something or someone else is the cause of their behavior, or is responsible for their results, or needs to take the blame.

What these External Locus of Control folks really believe is that success is beyond their control, and so they let their environment and circumstances influence them, reacting instead of responding.  Someone else is always to blame – the government, their boss or supervisor, their cultural background, parents, friends, the President/Governor/Mayor, the climate, God, past experiences, current events, the news, etc.  …  Their list is inexhaustible.  The result for them is that they feel powerless, weak, and definitely – not in control.

If you find yourself thinking pessimistically, lacking motivation, not wanting to put extra effort into anything you are not 100% sure you will succeed at, wanting to blame someone or something else for what’s not going as planned, or looking for someone to rescue you, you could be burdened with an External Locus of Control.

People with an External Locus of Control tend to stay safe and shy away from anything where they might make a mistake, so they seldom take risks.  And when they do make a mistake, instead of learning from it, they immediately look to place the blame outside of themselves – on their environment (the weather, etc.), someone else (a parent, or spouse, or co-worker, etc.), or something else (bad traffic, etc.).  This points to their belief that outcomes are dependent primarily on other people, conditions, luck, or even fate.  They also prolong and even avoid making decisions, since they mistakenly believe that when no decision is made, then nothing can go wrong.  Not understanding that ‘no decision’ is a decision!

Succinctly stated, people with an External Locus of Control act like victims – who things just happen to.  Things happen and they react.

Many studies done on Internal and External Locus of Control, underscore that people with Internal Locus of Control tend to lead more successful and fulfilling lives, because they believe their outcomes are based on their actions!  They believe they make things happen.  And so you will find them putting in effort because they believe that the right effort produces success.  For these people, the sky is the limit, and what they set their mind to, is achievable.

Because they can assure themselves, they are self-motivating.  Because they believe that their destiny is in their hands, they are optimistic.  They take full responsibility for their accomplishments, achievements, and successes, as well as their problems and failures.  They have a positive attitude about life’s ups and downs, and explore solutions, knowing there always will be gains and losses. They understand that they are in total control of their life and every result in their life is the result of the decisions they have made and actions they have taken.

Every day they give themselves the best possible chance of thriving vs. surviving – they don’t just sit back and wait to be rescued.

Winners are the people with the Internal Locus of Focus who make things happen.  They know their life is the result of their thoughts and actions.  When they act, things happen.

So coming back around to the opening, humans have a natural tendency to assign meaning to every experience and interaction we have.  It follows that people with an Internal Locus of Control, will assign a significantly different meaning to events than people with an External Locus of Control.

I invite you to take a look at where your locus of control is – internal or external.  Probably if you are reading this newsletter, you have at least some Internal Locus.  And, you may still find yourself being drawn in some areas, some circumstances, to the External Locus of blame or victim.

If you want to have full time, 100% Internal Locus of Control, then you must take responsibility for everything in your life.  Everything!  If you want to change your life or improve yourself, you need to attribute things internally.  You must monitor your thoughts, make your own decisions, and take responsible action, regardless of what happens.

When you are operating from the Internal Locus, you are in total and utter control of your life.  Note: this does not mean the life of anyone else!  This means you work with yourself only and don’t try to change others – no rules for other people in relationships – just your own healthy boundaries.  You only control what is controllable – yourself, your emotions, your time, money, energy, your health (to a certain degree), etc.  You don’t waste your time or your energy in trying to control or change events outside of your control.

In this conversation it is important to state that you must never blame yourself for any result.  No one will ever be right all the time – mistakes happen, especially when you are living large enough.  As you take control of your life with the Internal Locus, you will for sure make mistakes, some bad decisions, etc.  And you will get some bad results – its guaranteed.

Even when your past decisions and actions have not been right, or smart, or wise, it is imperative that you understand that you have always done the best you could do, given who you were at that particular moment in time.  You must give yourself the benefit of the doubt, forgive yourself, take responsibility, and move on – without blame.

When you realize you have made a mistake, take it as a lesson and learn from it – don’t dwell on it.  Your destiny is always in your hands when you have the Internal Locus of Control, because by its very nature, it forces you to look inside and make changes from within in order to achieve your desired outcome.

To start taking responsibility for yourself and developing the Internal Locus of Control there are three necessary steps

  1. Stop making excuses
  2. Stop blaming others
  3. Start giving positive/empowering meaning to events

We will cover this in next month’s Newsletter.

In the meantime – if you are interested in a more in-depth conversation about Internal and External Locus of Control please join me for a live Zoom call next week Wednesday, August 4, 7:30-9pm PDT.  We will review the key points of this newsletter and dive deeper into the conversation.

Registration information and signup is found through Eventbrite. 

And if there are specific questions you would like me to address, please send them to me at verlawade@gmail.com by Tuesday evening, August 3, 2021.

I am holding you in my heart.

Verla Wade
The Living Light Foundation

2021 – Create, Respond, and Adapt In Order to Thrive

I paused writing the monthly newsletter in the new year seeking renewal and inspiration.  As we now approach Spring, so much has transpired for so many.

2021 arrived energetic and productive.  Then the energies started, shall we say, colliding and what ensued provided both challenging and interesting situations and opportunities.  The pressure increased noticeably to constantly support, shore up, and even justify the systems and structures that have been serving us; that appear to have been working (in fact quite well, thank you) for years.  And yet, I experienced being literally compelled to convert many foundational structures that have been supporting me more than adequately for 20 plus years!  I have been intermittently dismayed, stressed and overwhelmed, even sometimes exhilarated, as I endeavored to understand and implement these required changes.

Now, in early March, after considerable reorganization, I realize that I have literally created an upgraded, enhanced, and stronger foundation, to move forward from, which is much more in alignment with who I now am!  These changes and systems have introduced new professionals to support me both personally and professionally; and yes, a few of my favorite go-to people seem thankfully, to be weathering the storm with me.

Sound a bit like preparing for the New Paradigm?  Well yes….; …. of course!

Then why was I, and so many around me who are experiencing the same compelling, even urgent need to restructure, so surprised?  Not sure.  I’ve been “talking the talk”, and “walking the walk”.  Although I now see in retrospect (hindsight is always 20/20), that I’m able to “walk the walk” in fresh, innovative ways with some wonderful new additions at my side.

Up to now, my motto has been Create, Improvise, and Adapt, which like many of you, I’m pretty good at.  Today, this strategy is obsolete and quite frankly, no longer serves us in serving the Light.  We are being called to embrace new ways of being in order to Thrive: Create, Respond and Adapt, in order to Thrive.

I want to unpack this just a bit.

First, we are always creating.  ALWAYS – 24/7.  Given this, it becomes fundamentally important to become conscious of what we are creating and how we are creating it.  This “consciousness thing” is not always easy because it requires two things: being in the now and telling ourselves the truth.  Once we are able to tell ourselves the truth about what we are creating – all of it (not just the good and positive stuff) – then we are ready for the next important step.

Second, respond and adapt.  As we review our results and take ownership for them, we are accurately able to adjust and adapt the next phase of our on-going creation – since we are always creating.  Since we have a realistic measure of our results based on the feedback we are getting, we can now re-align and re-infuse our creation efforts with our true desires.  This just makes sense – getting conscious about creation, and then adjusting and adapting is the fine tuning required to enjoy and embody the results we are seeking.

Finally, the whole purpose of this – the whole purpose of life – is to thrive.  And I mean really thrive – quality of life.  By your standards – not someone else’s.  And especially not based on settling for less because of past “failures”, or starting to live small because you believe you can’t create what you desire.

Just a footnote, none of this is new – it is ancient, true metaphysics, 101.

The important questions to answer today are:
•    How do I define thriving for me?
•    What is the quality of life I seek in my heart of hearts?
•    What structures to I need to change in my life in order to accomplish this?

This is the pressing work for us to master in 2021.  Hope this brief unpacking helps. Covid-19 is still our teacher, and we have the opportunity to learn so much right now at light speed – if we will.

I am looking forward to hearing from you about your process in conscious creation and manifestation of your heart’s desires.

I am holding you in my heart.

A Year in Review – 2020 our Foundation for 2021

This time of year we typically take inventory of the past 12 months.  Both for financial and tax reasons as well as a personal assessment.  As I first contemplated this approaching annual tradition, I was not excited about reviewing 2020.  After all, what is there to review?  C-19?  Lockdown?  So much loss of life – including people we love, lifestyle and life sustainability?  And who wants to review that?

And yet…., I am inviting you to review 2020 because our past and present always provide the foundation for our future.  Here’s the deal, our minds create our thoughts, which create our actions, which in turn create our results and current reality.  While we can’t change what is going on in the world, and we can’t rewind what has happened this year, and we can’t lessen the loss of so much life and of lifestyle that we love, we can acknowledge the loss, grieve where grief is necessary, and then with fresh eyes, take a new look at how we are viewing the past year.  I am encouraging you to join me with new eyes, inviting in a fresh perspective, perhaps changing how we each are viewing 2020.   After all, how we view it today is how we are going to remember it tomorrow.

What do you want your memory to be of 2020?  About the loss and fear that crept in to one degree or another, or about what you learned?  Or the unsuspected opportunities that were provided, and how you have benefitted from your experiences that have strengthened both you and your foundation?

These last few weeks of December provide a pivotal time to put 2020 to rest and welcome in 2021.  It’s up to each of us – we choose.  I choose to embrace 2021 with renewed faith in my heart, and a new commitment to continue to refine, grow and become the best possible version of myself.  Regardless of what is ahead, I know that as I find it within me to approach 2021 with excitement and enthusiasm, that will be reflected back.

I am holding you in my heart.

Wishing you a Holiday Season that is Merry, Bright and filled with Light,

Verla Wade – Guiding Oracle
The Living Light Foundation

Match the Frequency of the Reality You Want

Match the Frequency of the Reality You Want

(Otherwise you receive the frequency of the reality you are at!)

“Everything is energy and that is all there is to it.  Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality.” ~ Albert EinsteinIn light of an eventful 2020, I have been contemplating the above statement from Einstein about energy and matching frequency.  I believe it to be profoundly true.  So then, what does it say to us right now as our pivotal year is nearing an end?

I am in the process of presenting for the first time on Zoom a favorite class series that I authored and have taught for many years – Heart-Based Sales and Marketing.  We just completed the 2nd class on Identifying your Ideal Client.  As part of this process, once the participants look at the qualities, traits, values, and behaviors of their Ideal Client, I then ask them to identify where they are not their own Ideal Client!  In other words, where do they not match the frequency of who they want to work with!?!

What a concept right?  And it aligns with Einstein’s statement about energy – match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality!  Or, paraphrased, the frequency of the reality you are generating, is the reality you are going to get!

‘Match the frequency’ does not mean ‘emulate the frequency’.  Nor does not mean ‘fake the frequency’.  Neither does it mean forge, pretend, mock, or counterfeit the frequency.

‘Match the frequency’ means replicate or reproduce the frequency.  This is not something you can fake.

Here are the Four Pillars to Match Successfully the Frequency of the Reality you Want in your life:

  1. Clean (unpolluted) Will – from which you can harness and set your mind in motion
  2. Solid (firm) Foundation – when you want something new, you need a strong foundation upon which to construct it
  3. Know Thyself (the ancient edict of all true spiritual seekers) – an ability to tell yourself the truth about all aspects of who you are – without any backtalk from the negative ego/shadow self
  4. Clarity of Desire – about what you want and what is most important – also a part of Know Thyself

Here are my suggestions about how to begin this successful implementation for the remainder of 2020, setting the energy of the reality you want to match for 2021:

  1. Life Activation Session – if you are new to the Modern Mystery School this is an excellent place to begin
  2. Resilience Package – if you did not yet partake of this series offered for the first time in August of this year.  It has been getting really great reviews.  Includes: Life Activation, Full Spirit Activation, Hermetic Path Clearing, Blood Healing.
  3. Empower Thyself Class & Initiation – based on the premise that we are Eternal Spiritual Beings Having a Physical Experience, ancient Mystery School teachings are presented about how to be truly successful in the physical life.  In this 2-day class we enter into a deeper conversation about your soul, the Will, building a solid Foundation, Know Thyself, your personal Needs, Wants and Desires, as well as so much more.

I invite you to take a deeper look at the reality you desire in your life, where you may not yet have it, and join me in making the necessary adjustments to match your desired result.  And please, do reach out to me and share your wins as well as any place where you would like some support.  I do enjoy hearing from you.

I am holding you in my heart.

Wishing you a November overflowing with prosperity and gratitude,

Verla Wade – Guiding Oracle
The Living Light Foundation

Do Something Significant in the Last 100 Days of 2020

There are less than 100 days left this year!  It’s time to start thinking about what you want to do with these remaining days of 2020.

When I realized how close we are to the end of the year and how few days are actually left, I started remembering what I have achieved this year, and what I still want to accomplish as the year is coming to a close

2020 has been a huge reset – for all of us.  It has ushered in an unprecedented necessity to relinquish much that we hold dear – and open to new possibilities and new ways of doing things – not because we wanted to, but because we needed to.

Resilience is the word of the year, and with that, I now invite you to look at what you have accomplished this year with your resilience – as you adopted new levels of resilience in areas you never imagined you would need resilience!

Here are some recommended steps:

First: Return to the beginning of 2020 and review your year.  As you do this, acknowledge yourself for all the small and large things that you have done well.

Second: As you review 2020, please notice who you were in January and February, and who you are now!!!  You are different!!!  What are the visions and dreams you had at the beginning of the year?  Knowing what you know now, and who you are now, how can you revitalize and re-visualize your original goals into creation?

Third: After you have acknowledged your successes, it’s time to re-set your vision for the remainder of 2020.
•    What still needs to be done this year that is meaningful to you in your life?
•    What “lights you up” when you think about accomplishing it?
•    What impact – personally or professionally – is yours to make, that perhaps you have been avoiding?

It’s time to embrace the harvest energy of the coming fall months and turn it into productiveness in our lives.

Here are the statistics: 80% of the work gets done in 20% of the time – let’s make this last 20% count!

I am holding you in my heart.

Sending You Love and Light,
Verla Wade – Guiding Oracle

How Quickly Can You Adapt & Move Forward in Your Life? The Power of Resilience in Your Life.

I have been cultivating resilience for a number of years now – embracing it, acquiring it, and weaving it into my daily life.  As resilience and I have become friends, welcoming it into my being, I came to understand that it provides a strong part of my foundation for sustaining joy and achieving fulfillment.

In the face of Covid-19, re-integration into social settings (or not), vaccination (or not) when its available, all the questions about the safety of our children, the importance of their education, and invaluable experience they receive from being with others their own age, and the plethora of questions, challenges, adjustments, and life changes we are all addressing on a daily basis, there is something to be said for making friends with resilience.

Resilience is a wholistic approach to life – it is about how you view life, and how you handle life’s stressors – both the positive as well as the negative.  Today, I would define resilience as:

  • 1st –the capacity to recover quickly from difficulty
  • 2nd – the ability to maintain resilience is a measure of how balanced you are in your life

The benefits of resilience are many.  Foremost, it allows you to move away from, as well as heal patterns that compromise you, while at the same time, moving towards greater strength and adaptability.  This gives you the versatility to adapt to what’s happening and coming at you now, vs wasting time and energy fighting against what is.

The synonyms for resilience are wonderful qualities to nurture and embrace as well:

  • Flexibility (vs. rigidity)
  • Strength (vs. weakness)
  • Hardiness (vs. fragility)
  • Adaptability (vs. fragility)
  • Endurance (vs. weakness)

So resilience – my word of the month – perhaps truly, my word for 2020.  And particularly now as the we head into the end of the year – Resilience and Loving-Kindness – for Ourselves and Others. Perhaps resilience so we can have loving-kindness!!!!

Those of you who live within driving distance of me are aware that I am offering a special series of healings right now – The Resilience Package – to address our needs and the needs of our DNA as it adapts and builds resilience to our new life challenges.  Please contact me if you have questions.

PS: If you live in Western Washington State and did not receive my special offer email, please let me know and I will get that to you.

I am holding you in my heart.

Sending You Love and Light,
Verla Wade – Guiding Oracle
The Living Light Foundation

Developing & Maintaining Resilience

As The Living Light Foundation prepared to re-open for private sessions and in-person classes, I found myself contemplating who I am now and the benefits of the lineage work that we offer people and businesses.  Five words kept coming to the fore front of my meditations – “the Great Work” and “Sustainable Resilience”.

I would like to share with you several things I have learned about resilience during our time of isolation.

First, it is as easy to live from a place of faith and gratitude as it is to live from a place of fear.  And it requires a conscious choice.  Choosing gratitude over fear, allows you to draw upon peace, which then results in faith.

  • Faith that there will be another day and it can be good.
  • Faith in my family
  • Faith in myself
  • Faith in my health
  • And the list continues

Second, grace is given a day at a time – by God – for the now.  It is for today only, not tomorrow.  When you are grateful for today, it expands into grace and affects the quality of tomorrow.

Third, it is important to get outside of yourself and be a blessing to someone, so God/the Universe can send blessings to you.  Your being and doing creates the pathway and the flow.

Fourth, living life alive takes courage – often the courage to choose faith over fear in the moment.

And finally, in re-entering active life, it is not enough just to come back – we must return stronger, better, and more resilient as a result of the last six months.  It’s no longer a matter of bouncing back – because what many people seek to bounce back to no longer exists.  We are re-entering an entirely new environment, and therefore we must be prepared to bounce forward.

In light of this, we have put together a special package of healings and activations – the Resilience Series – which have never been offered before in this combination or at this price point.  Please stay tuned – these packages will be premiered in the next few weeks.  We are also offering classes for the first time on Zoom, as well as teaching in person our beloved lineage favorites (in limited numbers following recommended social distancing safety pre-cautions) starting in August.

I am holding you in my heart.

Sending You Love and Light,
Verla Wade – Guiding Oracle
The Living Light Foundation

Health, Vitality, & Wholeness: Its Time to Thrive (vs. Survive)

In today’s environment, nearly everyone is focused to some extent on the quality of their health, vitality and wholeness.  While some are focusing on improving, others are working at regaining a level that seems to have diminished over time.  As well, there are those who are naturally healthy and determined to sustain and enhance.

Maybe you have tried:

  • Diet
  • Exercise
  • Other advised medical options

And yet these techniques have often not yielded the desired result.  There’s a reason for this.  The quality of our health is affected by our environment – both outer and inner.

The foundation of our health is driven by what is happening within our unconscious – the underlying attitudes and beliefs we have about ourselves – just below the surface of our awareness.  This includes what we say to ourselves, which then replicates outward reflected by what we say about ourselves to others.  How we think, our emotions, and even how we feel about ourselves, at our inner-most core level, all affects our health and vitality and our ability to move past undermining patterns and habits.

Kabbalah has answers on all levels about our health, offering a vast range of knowledge, wisdom and understanding.  Never has this information been more applicable than it is today as we endeavor to know ourselves and strive to constructively adapt to our rapidly changing world.

Health, vitality and wholeness is an enormous topic, affecting us as humans, and at the forefront of our consciousness.  And, if I were to encapsulate it into a few words, I would say that health, as well as lack of health, is really about the human heart and its place in the vast universe.

In addressing this topic, we each have to ask ourselves some questions:

  • What is health?
  • What does health mean to me?
  • What is the level of health that I desire?
  • Where am I doing well and where could I be doing better?

And in answering the first question, ‘what is health?’, it may be easier to answer it from the perspective of ‘what is lack of health?’  What we do know is that our health, or lack thereof, is that it affects us on all levels – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  In fact, Kabbalah would reflect that lack of health is a result of separation and disconnection with the Divine!

Working with the Kabbalah provides a path of profound transformation.  One of the fruits (results) of this transformation is the ultimate healing of the human soul.  Kabbalah is above all a means of joining with the Divine.  And that health – true, sustainable health on all levels (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) –is achieved by reunion with the Divine.  Please don’t let this reference to the Divine turn you off if you are not acclimated this way in your life, because like I said, Kabbalah brings about the ultimate healing of the human soul.

Kabbalah tells us that there is an ingeniously mapped plan for each person on earth.  The purpose of this plan is for each person to be the creator of their life and in charge of their life destiny.  As you ascend up the Tree of Life, you begin to gain mastery over yourself.  You gain clarity about what has been denied, suppressed, repressed, unresolved, and stored in your unconscious – things you have avoided and not dealt with, which often fester and eventually lead to lack of health, vitality and wholeness.  And once you have this awareness, you begin the process of cleaning out your emotional and mental bodies (the negative ego and subconscious, where you have stored all these unresolved memories).  This is the groundwork in order to achieve sustainable, thriving health and wellness.

Clearing and healing your mental and emotional bodies makes it possible for you to deal with life now – to respond vs. react.  And this allows you to master the energies at each level of the Tree of Life, which in turn can be utilized for manifestation and creation in Malkuth; thereby becoming the creator in your life who is actually in charge of your destiny.

You might well ask, what are the energies at each level of the Tree that need to be mastered relating specifically to health, wellness, vitality and thriving vs surviving?

  • In Malkuth, you learn about your outer environment, how it supports or drains health and vitality, and what changes need to be made
  • In Yesod, you become aware of what happens just beneath your conscious awareness – your underlying attitudes and beliefs, making the unconscious conscious so you can change
  • In Hod, you investigate your mind, how it thinks, and what it tells you, which you then tell others, reinforcing either positive or negative attitudes and beliefs, allowing you to repattern your mind, thoughts and speech
  • In Netzach, you explore how your emotions are responding to life’s circumstances and how your emotional attachments are affecting your quality of life, and how to detach and respond in new and empowered ways
  • In Tiphareth, you address balance and harmony, gaining insight and motivation to establish your unique true inner equilibrium
  • In Geburah, you learn how to enhance your courage, strength and desire to change
  • In Chesed, you open up to new levels of loving-kindness, forgiveness, and mercy for yourself and others

Each these levels on the Tree of Life directly affect your health, wellness and vitality and when balanced, will ensure your ability to thrive (vs. survive).

We have just launched online via Zoom for the first time, the 7-week Kabbalah Series – The Tree of Health, Vitality, and Wholeness: The Art of Thriving vs. Surviving.  This topic is both applicable relevant to our current environment as we work to understand Covid-19 and its effects on us and our lives.

If Health, Vitality, Wholeness and Thriving is a topic that interests you, you are welcome to attend these online classes.  They are being offered Thursdays @ 6:30-8:30 pm PDT and then again on Mondays @ noon – 2 pm PDT.

Now is the Time to Thrive.  We each deserve quality of life.

I am holding you in my heart.

Sending You Love and Light,
Verla Wade & The Living Light Foundation